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The room is dark and also your soul. The way it dark into you allows your soul room to pause grow.
No matter how you doing or accomplish during the day, that means nothing to you.
The unhappiness contributes greatly to feeling bored and lonely.
You trying to predisposed to having happiness even once a time in your life.
But again, you didn’t reach the level of happiness that you want.
Finally, I found the solution to help you.
The solution will be easy and fast even that will not cost you anything.
That something existed between your hand, yeah! You are right, the phone.
This solution will get you out of grief and loneliness.
So, you don't need to live again in that dark room.
Before this revive journey, you need to sign some paper. Don't be afraid that nothing,
it's just a certificate that announced your addiction.
Addiction, it's not an easy word even we hate to hear about it. This word connects directly to isolation and death.
Using the phone to feed this loneliness will make the situation more difficult.
That’s what I call “the hardest — easiest addiction.”
Did you ask yourself how much time you spend daily on the phone??
People aged 16–29 spend the most time (3 hours a day) on social media platforms. And the researchers explained this amount of use results from being bored while doing our daily life tasks.
We give these applications permission to hack our life and become addicted to it.
Most people check their phone nonfiction directly after wake up. Sometimes we forget to move our heads because of the intense focus on this screen.
There is something I hear from a TEDx speaker that said, the only people who refer to their customers as “users” are drug dealers and technologists.
With all due respect to technologists, but it’s they who develop these apps and games to addicted to them.
But they’re not the cause of this addiction. The major cause is us.
Boredom, loneliness, free time makes us spend hours on that app without feeling the time.
It’s a common mistake between us and them. But this not the time to find out who caused this addiction, it’s the time to find a way to solve it instead of exchanging charges.
But the question is: What actually happens to us when we get bored? Or, more importantly what happens to us if we never get bored? And what could happen if we got rid of this human emotion entirely?
These questions that Manoush asked herself when she realizes that spends a long time on the phone.
Manoush Zomorodi, the Journalist, podcaster, media entrepreneur and author for Bored and Brilliant.
Manoush describes that when you get bored, you ignite a network in your brain called the default mode.
Researchers define boredom as an inability to engage with one’s environment despite the motivation to do so.
In her interview with Manoush. Dr. Gloria Mark said, “… So we find that when people are stressed, they tend to shift their attention more rapidly.
We also found, strangely enough, that the shorter the amount of sleep that a person gets, the more likely they are to check Facebook. So we’re in this vicious, habitual cycle.”
In past January I took the chance to do the challenge called Bored and Brilliant Challenge.
Manoush helped me to get through this addiction with six day tasks. The challenge can you to decrease this addiction and use this time correctly.
You Need Less Than a Week To Be Out Of A Social Media Addiction:
Day one: Put it in your pocket
While you wait in a long queue or take a walk or take the train and you
feel bored, make sure you don’t use your phone unless you need to
or when you reach your destination.
With his interview with Manoush, Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang, author of
“The Distraction Addiction.”
Dr. Alex gives us basic steps to dealing with the phone:
1-Remember to breathe
Dr.Alex explains this by said, “When we check our email, wait for messages to load, we unconsciously hold our breath. And this matters because… holding your breath is something you do in moments of anxiety.”
2-Turn off non-vital notifications
Dr. Alex likened smartphones to a child — when you open them up, they’re set to alert you to absolutely everything.
Dr.Alex said, “… In this respect, smartphones behave like children. When they want your attention, they want it right now.”
3-Make sure you do get the notifications that matter to you
While checking your phone, make sure you don’t run into any triggers that will waste your time.
Dr.Alex said, “Knowing that you’ll hear about a sick kid or cancelled flight lets you rest easy about everything else.”
4-Fight “phantom phone syndrome:” Practice not answering messages right away
Dr.Alex explain the excuse for a reply by saying, “…If [you’re] a medical resident you tend to have this an awful lot — if you’re on call and you miss your pager going off or you miss your phone, that’s a really, really bad thing, because that means someone’s in the ER and not getting your attention,” he continued, “For everyone else, you can get to that text later.”
I am a curious person, and the idea of staying away from these messages was difficult. I decided instead to reply separately to each message and answer them all later.
5- Carry your phone in a bag, rather than in your pocket or your hand (this one’s extra credit!)
Dr.Alex said, “Not carrying your phone right against your body but carrying it in your bag can help ease some of that sense that you always need… to have a little of your attention turned toward your phone.”
Day two: Photo Free Day
After a day without holding my phone in hand, I was only holding it when moving from one room to another without actually using it.
Day two was so different, It let that little photographer inside me explore the world.That day, my eyes played the camera’s role in discovering and taking a shot of this entire world.
Manoush said, “See the world through your eyes, not your screen. Take absolutely no pictures today. Not of your lunch, not of your children, not of your cubicle mate, not of the beautiful sunset. No picture messages. No cat pics.”
Day Three: Delete That App
I deleted Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and I kept podcast applications and WhatsApp for my work.
Initially, it was hard and weird, but this was the first time I took the lead in controlling my phone and not the opposite.
Even if you aren’t at 60 times a day, just about everyone has that one app — that one damn app — that steals away too much time. — Manoush Zomorodi
Manoush instruction for this day is, “Delete that app. Think about which app you use too much, one that is the bad kind of phone time. You pick what that means. Delete said time-wasting, bad habit app. Uninstall it.”
Day Four: Take a Fauxcation
This day will be like a break from everything, texting, email, group chatting. etc. Take a break and don’t reply to any of these things.
On this day, I went to my favorite place (the downtown.)
I placed the car in the garage and started walking in the downtown streets.
The irony here is how I realized the diversity in color, shape, and structure in the downtown buildings. And I asked myself, “Why haven’t I noticed that diversity before?”
Manoush instruction for this day is, set an email auto-reply just as you would if you were out for a real vacation, send an “I’ll be back later” text out on group chat, or put up an away message status on social media.
Day Five: One Small Observation
On day four, while walking through the streets of downtown and I saw that diversity for the first time, I decided on day five to focus more on the details of these beautiful homes’ designs and how the differences between these homes make the road look amusing.
As an engineer, this focus on the structure has allowed me to create creative solutions for my designs.
Manoush instruction for this day is, “Today, go somewhere public. It could be a park, a mall, a gas station, a hallway at work or school. You pick.” She continued, “Once you get there, hang out. Watch people, or objects, or anything that strikes you. Try not to be (too) creepy. Imagine what a single person is thinking, or zoom in on an uninventable detail. Just make one small observation you might have missed if your nose were glued to a screen.”
Day Six: Dream House
We want you to get really bored, and then make something creative, introspective, and personal. — Manoush Zomorodi
We reached the end of this challenge — it’s funny, and I find it apt for everyone — because it builds creativity.
Manoush instruction for this day is:
- Take out your wallet and empty it of all its contents. Use them to construct your dream house. It could be the place you wish you lived in all the time or a getaway. Take as long as you need to build.
- Give your house a descriptive name.
So the next time you go to check your phone, remember that if you don’t
decide how you’re going to use the technology, the platforms will decide for you. — Manoush Zomorodi
Social media is full of fake stories and full of temporary happiness. But don’t change permanent happiness to temporary.
Social media addiction is like alcoholism and smoking.
If you can’t put that phone away, that means you’re an addict.
This addiction will cost you time and money and will also make your life worse.
Take a step back from technology and live your life. Recover from this addiction will give you more free time to think, focus more on details, and create more opportunities for your own personal development.
After this challenge, I had extra time to work and to sleep. The extra hours helped me to increase my skills and work accuracy.
My reading rate increased to become over twenty hours per week. Also, I had time to take care of my body shape.
This Challenge learned me that boredom can transfer to be the trigger of being creative and socializing.
So, Be strong and put this phone away.
